It’s been a long time since I had written publicly but earlier this year I decided to go public with my blog again.
I forgot how much drama it can cause, so I have decided to go back to privately posting.
I will continue to post publicly about some big things in my life. But for the most part this will now be a private blog, again.
Thanks!
So just a bit of an update here… Mostly about Wings and Army.
First Wings, things have been going very well. We’ve had two gym date nights, which are a lot of fun. He comes over, we go to the gym, work out together, come home, cook dinner, then just hang out and spend the night. He goes to school when I leave for work. It’s been super cute, IMHO.
This past weekend he came over after work and spent the whole weekend with me. Saturday we worked around the house then that afternoon we washed one of my trailers and did some other random stuff. Saturday evening we went to the lantern festival which was a HUGE LET DOWN. But it was still fun walking around with him there. Afterwards we went out to dinner at this Chinese place because the CHINESE festival didn’t have any fucking CHINESE food!
Sunday we did a hike in the morning and Astra got to run around like crazy, then we went to this little farmers market and bought some stuff and came home. Spent the rest of the day just sort of lounging around and hanging out.
He’s a really nice guy and I’m enjoying our time together and excited to see where it goes from here.
Army on the other hand, I haven’t really talked to him since he got back from Spring break. There’s been a few short bursts of txts, IE last week he texted me “I need to poop” and I replied “I dunno how I can help you with that” and he said “Me neither” and that was it. One day I texted him a picture of some poppies and said “Beautiful 80 degrees here today” and he replied “UGH”. So whatever.
Going to Palm springs this weekend with Pasta. Should be tons of fun. We haven’t been there in nearly two years and he’s finally making good on his promise from when I was laid off. Driving down to LA Thursday night, then out to PS Friday morning. Looking forward to a good weekend lounging by the pool, drinking and reading a book. I need a book to read!
Work has been work. My new guy is working out very well but I’m super frustrated. Found out the project I was HIRED TO DO A YEAR AGO has been pushed another quarter. The Ceo of the company is saying that “centralized email groups” don’t work. So he wants all the department managers to be able to do them themselves. I am so over this guy, he has no idea what he’s fucking doing. I am ready to start looking for a new job. I just feel so un-utilized here, I feel like my mind is going to mush and now this is TWO FUCKING COMPANIES I’ve been hired at to run a specific project and neither project has materialized.
I really want to start my own company that actually works and makes enough money for me to live on. Weed is the next big thing, I need to start a weed farm! Or any sort of farm, I feel like there’s not a TON of money in farming (unless you’re huge) but there’s guaranteed money. Everyone needs to eat!
Ok, wow. Today got crazy. I started writing this like 9 hours ago….
I spent a lot of time at the gym yesterday thinking about the optics of relationships and how much they impact my preference for who I date.
So explanation. Take Calvin for example, he’s a Doctor. I think a large part of why I stayed with him so long was because he is a doctor, I knew that whenever I introduced him to people they would be impressed. I knew that we would never have to worry about money. I knew that he would always have a job. Etc etc. There’s so many benefits to having a nice job like that.
Army.. Army is well, Army. There’s a certain prestige to being in the army. It’s nice to say to your friends and family “Oh he’s in the Army.
And well then there’s people like Wings. I’ve dated plenty of them in the past but haven’t introduced them to my family and have usually mostly kept them pretty private. IE JonJon, Mexican, etc. They all had part time jobs in retail and I was always sort of embarrassed to tell people what they did.
Is it bad to think about these things and put so much thought into them? I’m not sure.
We hired a new girl a week ago. I got email from CEO requesting a “computer”. So we setup a normal desktop PC for her. I was up in Yuba last Tuesday and she requested a laptop. I ordered her a laptop. We have standards for these things. We have a standard desktop setup, we have a standard laptop setup. (15″, 4lbs)
On Friday the CEO was up in Yuba and started sending these emails about how he expects to have things ready on day 1 blah blah blah. I replied back that we DID have them ready, as he requested. UGH the new girl then emailed me basically saying “I expect to have my new laptop by Monday”. So Monday she comes, I give her the new laptop, she leaves my office. Then 10 minutes later I get email saying “this laptop is unacceptable, I need something that I can travel with”. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! It’s a laptop, you can travel with it. So she then checks in with me later in the day and asks “Did you order my laptop yet?”. I told her that I am waiting on approval since we’ve already spend $3,500 on new computers for her.
That evening I got an email from her again. “I’ll be back in the office on Wed and I need my new laptop ready when I get there”. STFU… Shit like that really pisses me off and people talking down to me like that is unacceptable. Just makes me not want to do anything around here TBH.
This past weekend I had a date with this cute tattooed asian guy (Wings). Dinner and a movie turned into a sleep over. It was fun and we’re hanging out again tonight for a gym date. He’s a nice guy and I enjoy talking to him. He loves astra already. We will see what happens. We went to Texas Roadhouse, that place was PACKED. I do not understand how it’s always so packed at that place. 1.5 hour wait for dinner. I should find out if that’s a franchise, maybe I should start one up!
Haven’t heard from Army in a week… whatever. Like I said, he’s just simmering and he can contact me when he wants. But I’m so turned off by his attitude. I need someone who’s going to give me attention, say nice things, be excited to talk to me, be happy to just hang out and watch movies, someone who wants to know and hear about how my day goes.. And most importantly, someone who’s supportive and says positive things.
I am so not an office working employee. I wish I had found a job in a more hands on field, something out and about.. I see no benefit to this job, no enjoyment, no final produceable product you can feel good about and the fact that the ONE BIG PROJECT i was hired on to do keeps getting pushed farther and farther out… It’s super annoying.
So this past weekend I had 3 dates in 3 days.
Friday I met this guy in Vacaville and we had a nice dinner. He was cool, very into outdoors but he smokes. Has a dog as well. I could see us hanging out and camping but nothing more.
Saturday I had a date with this Thai guy, who apparently is leaving the country in a few weeks anyway, so no reason to get too into him.
Sunday I met another guy and it was blah. Strike three!
Did a nice hike with Astra Sunday morning and that was fun.
There’s a lot of drama going on at work. New ORG structure and people don’t report to who they should, no one replies to anything. It’s a fucking mess.
I’ve been using some of the techniques from the Attached book on Army and they seem to be working a bit. We chatted last night about some stuff and also a few days ago. But for the most part I’m just sort of letting it simmer on the back burner and see what happens. He let me know last night that he’s coming on the 31st of May instead of the 28th and then leaving June 20th. This is sad because I had stuff planned for Memorial day week but since he’s not coming on Memorial day now all that is scrap. 🙁 He claims he’s hanging out with his grandma which actually means he’s getting drunk with his cousins in Lincoln.
Sunday I went to a tattoo shop in Berkely. I’m ready to get my first one but the guy was kind of a dick. He kept telling me my idea wasn’t right and blah blah blah and that I needed to do more research. So whatever. I’m going to stop at a different place in Sacramento today.
Last night at the gym there was this hot asian guy. I saw him talking to this latino guy. I got on grindr and the latino guy was on there for “Right now”. His pic was like 10 years old cause in person he was much older, fatter, uglier. The asain guy was pretty cute. Nothing like Gym Husband but decent. I messaged latin guy “Are you at 24hr with the cute asain guy?” He replied “Yep, that’s my fiance”. Ugh. Why can these ugly latin cheaters get cute asain guys! I mean the guy was fucking ON GRINDR WHILE HE WAS WITH HIS FIANCE!?!?